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Maisha is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern with Turning Point Counseling. She has a passion for helping people achieve wholeness through acceptance and loving themselves as they are understanding that God created us all with awesome potential. Growth and change can be very difficult, but “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Philippians4:13. She believes that the foundation of achieving and maintaining healthy relationships is congruent communication. Maisha has worked with a culturally and clinically diverse client base that includes: couples, substance abuse, intimacy issues, and domestic violence. She also worked with problems such as anger management, parenting, depression, anxiety, assertiveness/self esteem, grief and loss, self harm, divorce, family, illness, and disabilities.

Friday, April 29, 2011

More of Me?

Greetings!
It's been a while since I have conected with you through the blog, but that is exactly why I am writing today!!
Notice the title "more of me", this is a concept that is simply offensive to our Christian senseabilities. But wait, follow me for the context of this statement. You see when I look at the women in my life (myself included) I wonder when "enough is enough"!
When I say more of me I simply mean that as women we need to honor our bodies, minds, and spirits by taking care of ourselves. Putting , ourselves "on the list", stop feeling guilty about taking some "me time". More importantly we need to give God more of me not just what's left over after we have worked overtime on the job, attended the PTA meeting, dropped kids off at soccer, baseball, basketball practice, after mending their uniform for the game on saturday for which we are designated to bring the snacks as the "team mom", oh and let's not forget the hubs who simply cannot live without our cooking and can never find his "good" shirt for church on Sunday morning. Okay so you know the drill, my point being there are so many things that we do because? we are women? people depend on us? we are the only ones who can? simply because we can? this is how we show/feel love and appreciation? Hmmmm, good question. Right? Well it's not as much a question as it is a statement. We were created to be nurturers, help meets, completion so to speak. But in all things there should be balance! yes even in service. On that note I would like to close with this a recent "note" to friends:
Greetings All,
As I sit here in my home office, taking care of some business, and nursing a very painful leg, that I am pretty much unable to walk on. I am thinking of my far too frequent tendency to put off or even forgo self care. After all there is so much to be done and people depend on me. I spend a lot of time in prayer and meditation on behalf of my clients , the families I serve in my church, friends, and my own family as I believe is God's will for us as Believers. I also pray for strength and wisdom, and more importantly His will be done regarding my purpose as a wife, mother, and MFT. What I realize is that sometimes I am not always so good at slowing down and taking time to rejuvenate myself, even if it means something as simple as just taking a nap or getting a manicure. God will deliver the Spiritual restoration and physical healing but you can't be running from Him on your way to the next task, especially if you pray His will be done. This doesn't really work while you're pursuing yours!

Okay so I confessed all that to say this:
I thought I got it, all this time while telling myself "Mai you really gotta slow down the enemy is attacking you so fiercely because you have allowed your resistance to get so low". But the light really came on last night when my husband shared this with me during our evening Devotion:

April 6th meditation
They made me keeper of the Vineyards; but mine own vineyard I have not kept. Song of Solomon 1:6
Our attention is here drawn to a danger which is preeminently one of this day; the intense activity of our times may lead to zeal in service to the neglect of personal communion, but such neglect will not only lessen the value of the service, but tend to incapacitate us for the highest service.
__J. Hudson Taylor
__Thoughts for the Quiet Hour


So on that note; I will close with my "take away" from this: Let us continue to serve in excellence, but remember knowing your limits is an essential part of excellent service.
Love Yall!